Tuesday, August 18, 2009

Just the Boys

It was pretty obvious the kid missed me when I was out of town. Every time I called, the Bean picked up the phone and instead of saying "hello” he would ask, “Are you coming home Daddy?” It broke my heart every time that I had to tell him that I wasn’t yet. I promised that I would make it up to him when I got back.

Upon my return home, the Bean started asking to do something “just the boys.” As much as I ached to spend some one on one time, we had to navigate the annual onslaught of grandparental visits. Three weeks later, a free weekend was in sight and I decided that I was going to take the boy to the fair.

A few days before the trip, I broke the news that we were going to have an adventure.

“In two nighttime naps, we are going to do something just the boys,” I told him (because he measures the world in daytime and nighttime naps).

He asked me where we were going and I said it was going to be a surprise. (I love the element of surprise and often keen details about plans vague, much to the delighted frustration of those around me.)

He paused and asked, “Will there be ice cream there?”

“We’re not going to Disneyland, buddy,” The Bean associates eating ice cream with Disney. (Take that Mr. Mouse!)

It ultimately didn’t matter that we weren’t going to the Happiest Place on Earth, because he got really excited about the road trip. He started telling anyone who would listen, “I’m going on a trip gus the boys and I’m going to eat ice cream and it’s going to be chocolate.”

The amazing thing is that not once did he ask me where we were going. He was just excited at the idea of spending the day eating ice cream with his dad. He didn’t care where it was. Just that we did it together.


Blogging Mama Andrea said...

Those are the things that matter to kids, not where they go but who they go with.

I hope it is/was a great trip

SciFi Dad said...


It's not what you do with them, just that you're doing it WITH THEM.

Eventually, it will matter, but for now, I'm content to be the sole prize.

Chic Mama said...

Awwww- that is soo sweet. Makes you feel so loved and appreciated.

ZenMom said...


It's true. The time and attention you spend with them is more important than the destination.

Here's to many more "just the guys" outings ahead! :)

Your escalator operator said...

Very cool.

Danielle said...

Don't you wish it were that easy with adults?

Steph said...

That's awesome!! I'm so glad you had a great time!!

SweetPeaSurry said...

That is super duper sweet. Just the boys!!! he he he!

I'd like to go somewhere after two nighttime naps myself! HAH!


Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

Okay that is too adorable. My kids and I and my husband all had a night out together last night... and after we picked up ice cream my boy shouts out... "this is the best family night EVER"...

We have family nights every week... apparently ice cream pushes it up that one notch! :)

Super Mega Dad said...

I remember those days. NOW my oldest wants to know where we are going and what we're going to buy him when we get there. :)